Janice Aull

Transformation

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Life itself is a privilege, but to live life to the fullest – well, that is a choice. ~Andy Andrews – Author

Transformation is going beyond form, it is taking a step into chance. When was the last time you stepped out of your comfort zone and took a chance to transform yourself in some way?  

Taking a step outside your comfort zone can conjure a wide variety of emotions; excitement, fear, anxiety, relief, nervousness, and wonderment to name a few.

We all have the capability and capacity to go beyond our form; to leverage the strengths and energy within ourselves.  For some, the challenge is identifying where to start.  Start with focusing on what you are passionate about, the things that give you energy.  Ask yourself what you can do to take your passion and strengths to the next level.

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Stepping out of your comfort zone to achieve a transformation can take effort.  Have you seen a butterfly work to emerge from its cocoon or a chick struggle to hatch from an egg?  They put a lot of focus and effort into their transformation, with spectacular results.

Taking time to create and implement a vision and strategy that focuses on doing what you are passionate about will bring you energy.  This energy will translate into self-awareness, agility, and innovation; propelling you into transformation. People will be drawn to your energy, creating an engaging environment that supports bringing out the best in yourself and those you interact with.

Are you exploring life outside your comfort zone?  Are you inspiring yourself and others to transform beyond current form? If so, enjoy and savor the journey. If not, take a step, challenge yourself to the next level, your path is in front of you.

If you don’t go after what you want, you’ll never have it. If you don’t ask the answer is always no. If you don’t step forward, you’re always in the same place.  ~Nora Roberts – Author

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How would you rate your performance?

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Sometimes, you have to look back in order to understand the things that lie ahead.”  ― Yvonne Woon

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When was the last time you stepped back to reflect on your performance?  Are you meeting your own expectations?  Better yet, are you exceeding the expectations you set for yourself?  Reflecting on your performance towards your goals on a regular basis will ensure you stay focused on your path to your defined success.

Reflective practice is a skill that can be developed. Learning to reflect will help you move your goals from theory into behaviors that help your goals become a reality.  Reflective practice will also help you increase your self-awareness, a key component of emotional intelligence.

Do you have people you can turn to that will provide you with candid feedback?  How you see yourself and how others see you can be different.  Create a list of people you can rely on to help you reflect and stay focused on your goals. Offer to do the same for others.

During your reflective practice are you keeping track of your progress through documentation?  Capturing your goals and accomplishments in writing provides tangible results you can focus on when you need a boost or want to challenge yourself to go to the next level.

Schedule time to reflect and ask yourself:

  • What am I doing well?
  • What do I need to do differently?
  • What have I been doing and what type of emotions have I been having?reflection
    • What prompts them?
    • Do I need to make changes?

Personal development is a lifelong process that requires you to be honest with yourself. Taking time to reflect and measure your performance towards your goals provides you opportunities for continuous learning and growth. Taking time to reflect means slowing down enough to stop, enjoy the adventure and figure out what is really important to YOU.

LearninLearningGrowth.pngg without reflection is a waste. Reflection without learning is dangerous.”  ― Confucius

Stay the course

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What you get by achieving your goals is not as important as what you become by achieving your goals. “  ~Zig Ziglar

For some of us we have three months left to complete our goals.  Where are you at with these goals? Are you on target to achieve them? Do you need to make some adjustments? To quote Henry David Thoreau – “It’s not enough to be busy. The question is: what are we busy about?staying-on-course-2

Your end destination may remain quite similar over the long term, but the action plan you set for yourself along the way can change significantly. Make sure the relevance, value, and necessity remain high.

Now is a great time to step back and analyze the progress you are, or are not, making with your goals.

  • Take time to clarify your priorities. Identify and focus on the goals that will add the most value.
  • Acknowledge your wins and learn from the progress you have or have not been making with your goals. Maintaining a learning mindset will promote continued growth and movement towards goal completion.
  • Tell people what your goals are. Announcing your intentions will increase your chances to achieve your goals.
  • Be realistic. If you’ve discovered your goal is too big, make adjustments. It is better to achieve something than nothing at all.
  • Build in reminders to keep yourself on track and make regular time-slots available to review your goals.

Make a commitment to yourself. There is only one person in this goal-setting process that matters. You!  It is all on you; make an ongoing commitment to yourself.

Day by day, nothing changes but when you look back everything is different.” ~Unknown.

What can you do with your goals today that will make looking back to today feel really different and really satisfying?sunset

Personal Accountablity

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I recommend taking time to explore John G. Miller’s book “QBQ! Wha to Really Ask Yourself: Practicing personal accountability in business and life“.   This book aims to help eliminate blame, complaining, and procrastination and addresses what he feels is a major issue: the lack of personal accountability.

Miller writes that “Sometimes people think they have no choice. They’ll say things like, “I have to” or “I can’t.”

We always have a choice; always. Realizing this and taking responsibility for our choices is a big step toward making great things happen in our lives.”

Miller believes the mindset that brings personal accountability to life is take ownership of the situation, explore and question it to find a solution. He provides three simple guidelines for creating a QBQ:

  1. Begin with “What” or “How” (not “Why,” “When,” or Who”).

When we ask “When,” for example, we’re really saying we have no choice but to wait and put off action until another time. Questions that start with “When” lead to procrastination. Procrastination is a sneaky problem. We put off a problem until a little later, and then a little later, and then a little later, until before we know it we have put off action so long that we have a serious problem. Miller quotes a friend who likes to say: “Let’s take care of the little things while they’re still little.” When we ask “Who” we deflect to someone else and take the responsibility off of ourselves. We’re looking for scapegoats and someone else to blame.

  1. Contain an “I” (not “they,” “them,” “we” or “you”).

Personal accountability is about each of us holding ourselves accountable for our own thinking and behaviors and the results they produce. Blame and “whodunit” questions solve nothing. They create fear, destroy creativity and build walls. There’s not a chance we’ll reach our full potential until we stop blaming each other and start practicing personal accountability. No matter what we’re trying to accomplish, there’s always a barrier of some kind to overcome, and it’s often something over which we have no control. Instead of focusing on the barriers, let’s work to become so good that we’ll succeed no matter what. Who do accountable people blame? No one, not even themselves.

  1. Focus on action.

To make a QBQ action-focused, add verbs such as “do,” “make,” “achieve,” and “build” to questions that start with “What” or “How” and contain an “I.” This focus will create questions like these:

“What can I do to help you do your job better?”

“What can I do to make a difference?”

“How can I support the team?”

“How can I help move this forward?”

“How can I provide value to you?”

“What solution can I provide?”

“How can I do my job better today?”

“How can I improve and/or adapt to the situation?”

“How can I better understand you?”

“What can I do to find the information to make a decision?” “

Taking action may seem risky, but doing nothing is a bigger risk! Even though there are risks involved in taking action, the alternative, inaction, is almost never the better choice. Miller writes that:

  • Action, even when it leads to mistakes, brings learning and growth. Inaction brings stagnation and atrophy.
  • Action leads us toward solutions. Inaction at best does nothing and holds us in the past.
  • Action requires courage. Inaction often indicates fear.
  • Action builds confidence; inaction, doubt.

QBQ is the practice of personal accountability: We discipline our thoughts. We ask better questions. We take action.

Practice it…and may it serve you well.

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Adding Value

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“The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.”  ― Ralph Waldo Emerson

Every day you make decisions. The ddifferenceecisions you make come in a variety of ways; people, events, or things vying for your attention, time, or resources. Hopefully many of the decisions you make add value to you and your world. What happens when they don’t?  What can you do to ensure you are in your optimal zone and adding value to your world?  The answer – focus on what you can control and influence and let go of your concerns (things outside of you area of control or influence).

In life, there are many things about which you are concerned about yet have no control or influence over. Fortunately, however, there are many things you can control and influence. Highly successful people embrace this and spend their time and energy where they can make a difference. They realize they can influence a great deal; resulting a tremendous value being added to their world.

When you find yourself focusing on what you cannot control or influence; pause, take a deep breath, think, stay calm, and choose one item from your list and make a difference. You can’t always control the things that cause pressure, but you can control your reaction. Remind yourself that difficulties in life happen, they are a normal, unavoidable part of life.

Positive self-talk focusing on what you can control and influence is a useful way to help you stay calm while under pressure. It will also help you stay solution focused and avoid negative thoughts that may want to dominate your mind. Use your energy to focus on the present and what you can do to move forward. Focusing on what you can control and influence can help you to optimize your performance, increase your energy levels, recognize opportunities, and respond creatively to challenges.

Things you can control, right now:

  • Your actions.
  • How often you smile.
  • Your level of honesty.
  • The effort you exert for tasks.
  • How you act on your feelings.
  • How much time you spend worrying.
  • Taming the negative gremlin in your head.
  • How often you ask questions and listen to others.
  • How often you show gratitude to yourself and others.
  • How often you notice, appreciate, and share small acts of kindness.

Continue your control and influence list…….and then ACT on it! There are twelve months in a year. That gives you 52 weeks in Actionwhich to choose your priorities. You have 365 days to decide where to focus your time, your attention, and your efforts. You have thousands of opportunities to choose, to try, and to learn. In twelve months you can achieve miracles.  You can, to a remarkable degree, create the life you want. Be courageous and show determination to take the time needed to modify, impact, transform, and reinvent things in your life. You may not be in complete control; that is no excuse to deny the power you do have. Choose well. Use your power.

 “It’s the action, not the fruit of the action, that’s important. You have to do the right thing. It may not be in your power, may not be in your time, that there’ll be any fruit. But that doesn’t mean you stop doing the right thing. You may never know what results come from your action. But if you do nothing, there will be no result.”
― Mahatma Gandhi

 

Mid-Year Review

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“Happiness is not a goal…it’s a by-product of a life well lived.”
~Eleanor Roosevelt

Optimal SelfIt’s the middle of the year, are you on target to achieve the goals you set earlier this year?

Now is a great time to step back and analysis the progress you are, or are not, making with your goals.  Use the below looking-back and looking-forward questions to identify how you want to spend the second half of your year.

Looking-Back Questions:

  • Key Accomplishments
    • What are all of the great things that I got done over the past six months?
    • What goals did I achieve?
    • What things am I most proud of accomplishing?
    • Which of my goals did I really miss the mark on?
  • Learning
    • What opportunities to learn new things did I take advantage of?
    • What were the things I learned most?  
    • What mistakes did I make and what did I learn from them?
  • Time Management
    • How well did I manage my time?
    • Have I been focusing my time on the most important things in my life?
    • Are there any significant “time wasters” that I need to reduce or eliminate from my life? 

Looking-Forward Questions:

  • Top Three Goals
    • What are my top three goals for the remainder of the year?
    • Why are those goals important to me?
    • What habits and processes do I need to adopt to support those goals?
  • Learning and Knowledge
    • What areas of learning do I most need to focus on?
    • What new skills do I need to develop or strengthen?
    • What things do I need to “keep current” on?
    • What one skill, if mastered, would have the greatest impact on the achievement of my goals?
  • Habits
    • What time management habits do I need to develop and strengthen?
    • What three habits, if developed and sustained, would have the greatest positive impact
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    • What habits do I need to drop or replace?

Taking time to check in with your goal status provides you an opportunity to celebrate your accomplishments and regroup where needed.

If you are having challenges with meeting your goals taking time explore why, how, and where will help you create an action plan to overcome your obstacles.  Methods to overcome hurdles:

Recognize
  • Step back from the situation to get a better perspective. Taking obstacles personally may cloud your judgment; try to understand how you usually interpret difficulties.
  • Avoid blaming others or making excuses, try to define the problem clearly.
  • Be honest about what has happened – ignoring or downplaying the obstacle may only intensify its impact.
Reaffirm
  • Although your plan may not have worked out as you had intended, maintain a positive outlook and channel any negative reactions into productive behaviors.
  • Avoid making self-defeating assumptions about your abilities.
  • Control your initial response to obstacles by challenging pessimistic beliefs and focusing on your successes. One failure doesn’t mean your goal is no longer valid or possible.
Refocus
  • Learn from your mistake or oversight to prevent repeating it in the future.
  • Brainstorm ideas with colleagues to find an alternative solution. When brainstorming ideas, start by focusing on one clearly defined problem. Then identify strategies or tactics that have worked in the past, and adapt them to your current situation.
  • Change some of your goals if needed. Changing some aspects of your goal is better than abandoning it altogether.
Resume
  • Apply your new plan of action by focusing on factors you can control.
  • Explore factors that are out of your control but which you can influence.

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Taking time to be mindful with your goal pursuit will give them a more gentle, realistic, and achievable tone.  Find a quiet place to sit, take a few deep breaths, relax, and visualize what it
will be like when you achieve your goals. Imagine what it will feel like to be in this space of accomplishment.

“I’ve always found that anything worth achieving will alw
ays have obstacles in the way and you’ve got to have that drive and determination to overcome those obstacles on route to whatever it is that you want to accomplish”.
 ~ Chuck Norris

 

 

Embrace Awesomeness

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Dwell on the beauty of life. Watch the stars, and see yourself running with them.”  ― Marcus Aurelius

When was the last time you had an awe-inspiring moment that made you say “WOW!”?  When did you last feel a moment of wonder because you were in the presence of som12802876_10205873782189011_1700307018771663262_nething vast?  Do you have places that spring to mind when you think of moments that left you in awe?

Awe has been described as an emotion in the upper reaches of pleasure and on the boundary of fear. Awe consists of two qualities: perceived vastness (something you think to be greater than yourself), and accommodation, a need to assimilate the experience of vastness into your current mental structure.

Experiences of awe can change the course of life in profound and permanent ways. It’s an emotion that can have a tremendous impact because it takes you out of your own head. It minimizes your individual identity and attunes you to things bigger than yourself. It shifts your focus from your individual needs to a greater good.  Awe helps you to see things in a new light; giving you a sense of hope and the ability to see the bigger picture of life.  When you experience awe, you are more likely to feel that you’re rich in time because awe expands your perception of time, anchoring you in the present moment.

The actual feeling of awe and experiences that inspire it benefit you in all sorts of ways, from stronger health to improved relationships. Awe experiences make you more generous and more humble. Recent research is showing that positive emotions such as awe may help increase your immune system, lower inflammation and reduce the risk for heart disease, arthritis, depression, and even Alzheimer’s disease.

There is awesomeness in your everyday life, take a gander at your miraculous body. Look at yourself in the mirror, stare into your own eyes and contemplate what it takes for them to work at all. For many of you, it is awesome that water pours out of a faucet with the turn of a knob and you can have heat and cooled air with the turn of a dial. It is awesome that communication is beamed through time and space right into your hands.

Some peak experiences can be once-in-a-lifetime… but there are also everyday peak experiences that are equally amazing and available to you if you have your antennae up for the sense of wonder and awe that is everywhere. You are capable of experiencing awe, which can be invoked by anything that takes you out of your usual mindset and allows you to experience a connection with something greater.

Here are tips on how to attract awesomeness into your life:

  • Reminisce – Awesome experience. Perhaps it was a pristine place or a time you connected deeply with others during a special moment. Recall the details. Where were you? What touched you about it? What did it sound like? Feel like? When you can draw on your memories of awesomeness, you experience those feelings again.
  • Seek out beauty – Beautiful music, amazing art, or stunning natural views can invoke feelings of awe, so seek them out. Surround yourself with things that inspire you and make you feel good. Take time to notice and savor them. Common triggers for awesome experiences come from nature; in particular, water, mountains, trees, and flowers; dusk, sunrise, sunlight; dramatically bad weather and spring are often a catalyst for feeling awe.
  • Become present to the awesomeness in others – Look out for awesome performances. Surround yourself with people doing amazing things. Tune into the peak moments of life such as watching a baby being born, or someone you love triumphing after challenge. Savor the amazing and you will be elevated by awe.

When you experience awe, you are filled with positive emotion. You feel happier and more fulfilled. You are also healthier and experience greater vitality.12798828_10205873784269063_626824383491451793_n

The world is full of magic things, patiently waiting for our senses to grow sharper.”  ― W.B. Yeats